Couples find the stress of holidays has an impact on their relationship, statistics from theCoupleConnection.net reveal.
25 August 2012
Summer holidays should be a relaxing time for couples, but new statistics from the UK’s leading online relationship support service theCoupleConnection.net suggest families are struggling to cope with the stress of all that extra time together.
theCoupleConnection.net, an innovative web-service that allows couples to take a DIY approach to working on their relationship, sees an increase in users after holiday periods, including Christmas, Easter and summer holidays.
The spike in traffic suggests holiday periods could be leading to increased stress and more arguments for families, causing them to seek relationship support to help put things right as they settle back into a routine.
Research has found that two thirds of couples end up arguing once on holiday, with 1 in 4 having rows by day 3.*
But with British families working harder than ever throughout the year, by the time holidays come round there’s high expectations for that precious time off. Already exhausted, and potentially irritable, it’s hardly surprising that even minor setbacks can lead to frayed tempers and the onset of arguments.
Money worries are causing couples to argue about their holiday (budget, location, necessity) before they even take off, and the lucky ones who get away often find they’re unable to switch off from work in fear of falling behind.
Blackberries on the beach and work calls from the sun lounger are often a source of resentment for partners who feel their other half’s work will always take priority, even on holiday.
This summer theCoupleConnection.net is on hand to provide relationship advice and tips for couples worried that excess baggage and bickering children might put a dampener on their quality time together.
Tips for avoiding arguments on holiday:
- Remember the issues you face on holiday are largely the same ones you deal with at home. Expect that they’ll crop up, that way they won’t overshadow everything else.
- Try to postpone arguments. If a conversation starts to get heated try saying something like: “If we carry on with this conversation it’ll turn into an argument. Let’s not spoil the day while we’re on holiday. Shall we drop it for now and pick it up again once we’re home?” Very few arguments suffer from being postponed; most of the time you won’t care enough to revisit it at a later date.
- Decide when to switch off. It’s unfair on your partner to constantly check work emails while you’re supposed to be spending quality time together. So switch off the Blackberry, and if you really must check in with work schedule an hour in the morning or evening to focus on it so it doesn’t detract from the rest of your time together.
- Schedule some ‘me’ time. If you’re busy lives at home mean you’re not used to living in each other’s pockets, set some time off when you can pursue your own interests. A morning swim or an afternoon stroll round the local shops can give you some much needed space.
*EBookers survey of 2,000 British adults, May 2012.