Don’t stay together for our sake, say children
In a press release ahead of a parliamentary launch of new advice for divorcing parents, family law organisation Resolution have detailed the findings from a ComRes survey of 514 young people aged 14-22 with experience of parental separation.
The key finding is that over 80% of young people survey agreed that despite their feelings at the time, they felt it was ultimately better that their parents divorced rather than stay together unhappily.
We know that troubled partners often make troubled parents and a poorer couple relationship is linked to permissive parenting and more negative parent-child relationships. Conflict between parents can have particularly negative consequences for children. This is why such a large majority of young people may feel better off with separated parents than unhappy ones.
Whilst poor relationship quality is associated with negative outcomes, good quality relationships are linked to well-being and positive outcomes for individuals, their children and families. Focusing efforts on early intervention and encouraging people to think about their relationships earlier is essential in promoting these positive outcomes.
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