‘Getting it right for children’ (GIRFC) is the priority for most parents when they separate. But it is a stressful time and, with emotions running high, even everyday arrangements can become a source of arguments.
‘Getting it right for children’ aims to:
GIRFC is a video-based digital resource designed to help parents to manage separation in ways that will be less harmful to their children. They will learn ways to improve their communication and negotiation skills to work better with their child's other parent.
After they have watched the videos, you can give them a set of skills cards to remind them of the skills they have learned and how to practise them. These are available from the ‘Extra material’ section of your practitioner guide.
This guide is for practitioners who work with separated and separating parents. It will show you how to introduce parents to the resource and support them as they work through it.
Before you proceed to the facilitation notes for supporting parents, we strongly recommend that you familiarise yourself with the evidence base behind the resource.
Getting it right for children is for parents who are separated or in the process of separating from their child’s other parent and who are finding it difficult to communicate with one another. It may also be beneficial to those who have significant risk indicators:
This guide will help you to support parents working through the GIRFC resource. It is set up to help you work with parents in person and online.
GIRFC is focused on five different family situations, where children are put in the middle of their parents’ arguments. It may be particularly beneficial to parents who are starting out on the separation journey and want to make sure they do what they can to get it right for their children, or for those in high conflict situations who want to avoid protracted adversarial court proceedings.
Parents are introduced to a simple step-by-step process to develop positive communication skills as follows:
